I read that "Such Good Friends" was finally released on DVD. I've never seen that, and was one of Otto Preminger's last films, as well.

I am sure even apart from T.J., you must have felt a loss even when some actor or musician you admired passed. Especially with a TV actor, who we see in our homes, often with our loved ones, and especially with actors from a daily or weekly series, we feel almost as if we knew them. I'm still bummed about David Nelson.

I never knew T.J., but I have a feeling I would have liked him if I had, just from how I remembered him on TV and what I read of his real life on the Web.

Whenever I see that kid who plays "Axl" on the current ABC-TV sitcom "The Middle" (with Patty Heaton of "Everybody Loves Raymond"), I am reminded of the young T.J. And seeing what looks to be a high school graduation photo here on this site confirms the similarity in appearance between the two. Has anyone in the family noticed this?

It has been said & written by some that many will know (or know of) someone who died in the 9/11 attacks.. For me, T.J. is that someone. While the loss is not as personal as for you and T.J''s family, certainly, I nonetheless share it with you and send you a mental hug.

Take care, Tom.

Jim M.
Arlington, Massachusetts

I am pleased to have read that T.J.'s wife and kids, especially, haven't let this terrible tragedy defeat them in life, that they go on with a positive attitude.

It must have been very hard on T.J.'s mom (Is she still alive?), but hopefully she takes or took comfort in her other kids and grandkids to pull her through.

I am no stranger to loss myself (as you may read in my posting), nor even to tragedy, having lost a good friend in a motorbike accident when he was just 26 y.o., and a very close friend, native to your Jersey (Wippany) in a drug overdose just a few years ago.

But it is never anything but hard to accept, no matter how old the person, or the circumstances--a loss is a loss.

If ever circumstances should bring me to Jersey, I would love to meet you and the Hargraves.

I hope one day some video emerges of T.J. on "The Guiding Light" (even though a lot of daytime and daily network TV video in that era was wiped for re-use), and the re-release of "The Prince Of Central Park," so the world may once again see what a terrific young actor T.J. was!

I left a two-part comments posting about your brother in-law, T.J. Hargrave. Please share it with the family.

I only found out, within the last few months actually, that T.J. had died in the 9/11 attacks. Yet I knew of him many years ago, from having watched T.J. as "T.J." on "The Guiding Light," and in "The Prince Of Central Park." Because he was such a sensitive soul, and perhaps also because I was almost equally as young as he at the time, T.J. made an impression on me I never forgot.

In fact, in the intervening years before 9/11, I would sometimes wonder what happend to that kid who played "T.J" on "GL," and in "The Prince Of Central Park."

I never saw Kevin Bacon in the role, must have just stopped watching by then, as I was about ready to graduate high school, was busy with other things in life.

But before the Internet, and even after the Web's popularity (before I became connected), it was not as easy to follow the activities of those actors we had watched in films and on shows.

I know many years have passed since your family's loss. But as this loss is rather new for me (having just read of it with the 9/11 anniversary coverage), I would be remiss if I didn't express my condolences to you & yours. And I felt I had to post something, to honor T.J. in my own way, because T.J. certainly made his mark on me, all those years ago on TV.

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